Despedida De Soltera

September 29, 2014
Written by Cat Arambulo-Antonio
Categories: Events, Motherhood


A Despedida de Soltera is a Filipino tradition that represents a showing of consent from the bride’s family and blessing over the marriage. It literally  means, “goodbye to spinsterhood.”


The Despidida De Soltera that my parents threw for me was larger than my actual wedding. I had over 300 guests while my wedding was less than 100 guests (our immediate family & a few really close friends). Sometimes I wonder if there was an underlying meaning of my parents celebrating my Soltera in full force. I was under the impression that they seemed to be very eager to “give me away”, haha!

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I was definitely NOT the perfect child nor was I a walk in the park to raise. I gave my parents problems that only others could dream of (more like a nightmare! haha!). The two sayings that my parents live by: “Patience is a virtue” and “What doesn’t kill us will make us stronger!”.

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Fortunately, I was blessed with a very understanding, forgiving and loving family. My mistakes and shortcomings were never taken against me but were viewed as an “experience” to mould me into a better person. I remember my grandmother telling me, “We need to go through the bad to be able to appreciate the good!”.


Like anything in life, we live and we learn. It may have took me A LOT of bumps on the road to become the person I am today -BUT- I wouldn’t have done it any other way.  In my case, all it needed was a little balance and a voice of reason (someone that I would actually listen to) to keep me grounded and add some sense into most of my impulsive and spontaneous ways.


I didn’t need someone to change me, I wanted someone who was wiser than me and could compliment me. When I wasn’t flying out of the country to party or coming home at the wee hours of the morning/afternoon from a late night out, that is when I knew, my parents and family knew that Carlo was the ONE.


And YES, you’re right Dad & Mom… THAT called for a celebration!!! Thank you for throwing me an amazing Despidida De Soltera! =)

Special Thanks to Robert Blancaflor, Lily Banquet Manager of Manila Polo, Photographer: Willy Saw, Dress: Rosanna Ocampo, Pong Niu of MAC Cosmetics, Entertainment by: Anna & Glenn, Bea Tantoco and The Sauce, [V] Alvey Alfonso, Cliff Cole & to my dear friend JM Rodriguez for your surprise dance/song number.

- Cat Arambulo-Antonio


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